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Posted by T on December 27, 2007, 8:11 pm
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fatkinson@mishmash.com says...
> On Thu, 20 Dec 2007 13:18:13 -0500 (EST), Mark Crispin
>
> >The third thing that bullies do is choose victims that they perceive to
> >have no effective means of retaliation. A favorite tactic is to torment
> >the victim into lashing out visibly, but ineffectively; so that the victim
> >gets punished for...you guessed it, "bullying".
> >
> >Recent events have shown that these perceptions can be tragically wrong if
> >their tormented victim chooses a form of suicide that includes mass (and
> >indiscriminate) retaliation.
> >
> >Sadly, both parents and schools are inadequately attentive to the problem;
> >they sometimes even act as enablers. Nor is it specific to the USA; in
> >fact, it is much worst in countries (such as Japan) where intense
> >competition begins at primary school.
>
> This is true.
>
> But often, simply standing up to them is enough to end it.
> Nine out of ten will back down if they think they are really going to
> have to fight you. The tenth one is a chance you have to take unless
> you are content to be bullied.
>
> Other times, it is much more serious.
>
I remember in 3rd grade there was a kid who used to bug the hell out of
me, try to start fights, etc.
One day after school I cornered him, grabbed him by the neck and started
slamming his head against a brick wall.
He survived but never bothered me again. Nor did anyone else. Sometimes
you have to set the expectations first.
***** Moderator's Note *****
On that note, I'll close the "Bullies" thread.
Bill Horne
Temporary Moderator
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